It's not easy being driven
Some of us are so unlucky that we have this nagging drive to change the world with our gifts. It nags us when we should be sleeping. It nags us when we should be sitting down to eat instead of pacing with a bowl and spoon in hand. It nags us when we should be present to the person in front of us instead of 'getting a download' for the next way we can serve others.
Oh haha! Let's face it, that's a fabulous problem to have. But when a woman is that driven by her purpose and mission, it can create some difficult results everywhere else in her life. You might get stuck in your masculine a lot, you might push yourself past the point of tiredness a lot in your work day, or you might make decisions from a place of fear rather than a place of love.
And of course, everyone does this stuff, all the way up to the top earners and leaders in any market. But what separates those who stay inspired, grateful, full of energy and on course and those that get depleted, burnt out, resentful, and want to burn down their business (or do that unwittingly through sabotage) are a few simple tools that I'd like to pass on to you today.
I built my first business on a combination of inspiration and fear. I made a lot of money in my first few launches, but I also had a huge fear of not being able to pay bills if I didn't take massive action. It was a good learning experience, and I'm back from it to tell you how to stay in your feminine AND stay in conscious action so you can truly prosper.
To prosper isn't only about money-making, it is about being truly happy and spiritually-enriched and knowing who you really are so that you can contribute your authentic self in all that you do; to prosper is, in essence, to be free.
Here are the 3 Keys to Staying in your Feminine and in Action at the same time:
- Get Embodied - no matter who you are, because you have a body (your vehicle for your destiny in life) you MUST move it in a loving, conscious manner in order to stay in your feminine. Preferably find a spiritual practice that includes the body like yoga, qi gong, meditation, etc. and cultivate that. Some practices like Nia and Ecstatic Dance feel very spiritual to me because I use that time to deepen my connection with the Creator. Almost anything anywhere can support your spiritual cultivation in your body if you have an intention for that to happen. Some of my favorite ways to get embodied with the support of others are: massage, float tanks, sound baths, devotional concerts, chanting, and singing. On my own I like to: swim in the ocean no matter what temperature it is, do a moving meditation, paint & draw (yes these have the same affect on the brain and body as meditation and are very embodying)
- Get into Your Beauty - your Beauty is a spiritual power and quality, NOT skin deep. First and foremost connect with your inner radiance (this is where step 1 is of utmost importance) so that you KNOW who you are as a Soul, and feel the deep beauty of your reality. Then it's time to cultivate and enjoy outer beauty rituals which really anchor the feminine into the body in a solid way. Learn the Sacred Art of Makeup and sit down to do your makeup in the morning (preferable after you've moved your body); light candles just for your own enjoyment; buy flowers once a week for the house; play music that inspires you to move your body throughout the day; learn about your body's shape and style essence, go on a diet from negative self-talk; be compassionate with yourself; and, perhaps most importantly, learn what loving yourself really means (see yourself a Spiritual Being, whose purpose is to know and love her Creator—or whatever you want to call it, The Universe, Divine Essence etc.—rather than a body whose purpose is to be perfect.)
- Get into Your Purpose - Find out what your deeper purpose is behind what you ‘do’ or ‘sell’. Connect with that deeper purpose in some ritual every morning and every evening, meditate with it in mind, say prayers, ask for guidance, then be still and let the wisdom come. The next day (or in the moment), act on any actions steps that came to you in your meditation. Find ways to serve others more fully with your gifts, whether it is how you infuse love into the meals you make for your family, or the energy of the words you say, or the thoughts you think as you interact with someone whom you want to feel ‘enough’ and ‘whole’. Infuse this service-oriented mindset into your work/offerings.
Now it's time for me to hear from you, how do YOU stay in your feminine and in action, or what is one change you are going to make from the suggestions above? Share in the comments below.