How to survive and thrive through a photoshoot (or any big important project) + 9 of my Fave Get-Ready-Steps

#bts: Wiped and chowing at my fave restaurant after a huge shoot day #2! My smile is on the inside...you know conserving the energy...

#bts: Wiped and chowing at my fave restaurant after a huge shoot day #2! My smile is on the inside...you know conserving the energy...

Last week I had a HUGE re-branding photoshoot and videoshoot for my biz. And I learned some incredible lessons.

Let me start with a story:

The last time I had a brand photoshoot I:

  • Didn't get any sleep
  • Got my period and felt like I was going to keel over
  • Didn't get any time with my mentor because she was getting her own photos taken during my time slot
  • Bought clothes that I honestly wasn't thrilled about wearing
  • Was left to my own devices to accessorize the clothes and rush behind the camera in stead of getting support like the other 14 people being photographed that day
  • Cried in between shots

Yup. Now you're going to go over to my website and try to see what I'm talking about in the pictures. I only used two of the shots from that shoot (in the sparkly silver dress) because of these problems. Lol go ahead.

I have had a story for 5 years about that shoot. About people letting me down, about bad timing, about EVERYTHING from the victim standpoint.

And while all of it is true, it happened. There was ONE BIG stinking non-Truth in there that went lurking about for years.

Which is: it's ME. Not them. I had some major visibility healing that I needed to do about my own worthiness, my own power, my deservability to be supported, to be in a light and happy place about major upleveling projects like these.

How do I know this? On the eve of my brilliantly self-curated brand photoshoot this week I saw my victimhood issues show up, my visibility fears still latent within my ego, and my final and last-to-go tendencies to hide my power from myself. AGAIN. And I planned everything around my period and hired my own team.

Here's some more story to illustrate:

  • I've had poor communication with my Husband about needs and expectations for this event (I basically have been assuming he totally gets every detail of how I want this thing to unfold and it's caused arguments between us based on a lack of communication)
  • I've wanted to make up a story as a result that he or someone else is going to ruin it for me
  • my adrenals tanked because I've been pushing my energy and not sleeping as much as I need, and I'm now on a recovery protocol, and had to push the shoot back a few days
  • I thought about canceling this at least 5 times when various obstacles have come up (like seriously easy obstacles and the little girl in me is like: should we just cancel? Lol. No sweetie)

Now, I'm not a freshman when it comes to working through my stories, my B.S. and my fears, so here's what I did to find my way, and what you can do too before any important event, and especially a photoshoot or videoshoot.

The B.S. Buster List: (for any important project)

  1. Realize that YOU and you alone create your reality. It's not them, it's YOU. Everything around you is just gonna mirror back to you the areas inside your being you get to work on right now. For example: Not feeling supported in your project? Make a list of everything you need support with, who you want to ask, and then GO and get that support. Don't just sit there and let yourself feel like a victim.
  2. Get real: EVERYONE has fears when it comes to a major upleveling project like a photoshoot or any opportunity to show up as your NEXT LEVEL SELF. Make a list of what you're afraid of, how you've behaved in the past when you've done something similar, and what you'd like to do differently this time.
  3. When you feel scared, like collapsing and canceling, like EVERYONE else is letting you down, STOP. Realize that this is an ego trick and it's designed to give you a sense of contrast so you can SEE EXACTLY what you have to work on within YOURSELF. Yay!
  4. You think you're just having a photoshoot/special event? HA! Your having an opportunity to work on your deepest, darkest sh%*. GO GET IT LIKE A QUEEN WOULD. Face it head on, squarely, bravely, and with a mighty sword of TRUTH.
  5. DON'T buy into your own b.s.

Oh and if you really have a photoshoot, videoshoot or event coming up, here's 9 seriously practical and awesome get-ready-steps after you've dealt with the above to get you into your feminine and in your power:

9 Get-Ready Steps for Any Photoshoot, Videoshoot or Live-Event:

  1. Hire a team you love (you should feel thrilled to be in their energy-space, otherwise, it’s not a match)
  2. Don't settle with your clothes or jewelry, go to your edge and let yourself wear the best stuff (I suggest a Brand Stylist like Sybil Henry of www.thestyleconcierge.com my Fairy God-sister of brand strategy and style)
  3. Connect to your mission emotionally right before stepping in front of the camera. Close your eyes, breathe and move your body, and let your mission reach every cell in your body before opening your eyes and taking your first pictures. Rinse and repeat all day.
  4. Tell everyone EXACTLY how to support you (s-p-e-l-l it OUT) We aren’t mind-readers!
  5. Get glorious sleep (lose the illusion that getting more done at night is going to help you. It’ll just backfire)
  6. Exfoliate (Luminescence!)
  7. Get a mani/pedi (ahhhhhhh)
  8. Get a massage (I suggest the day before the event)
  9. Be a Queen (means NO victim stories, ask for what you want, don’t make demands. Queens know they are in charge of their reality, and don’t have to beg and plead and yell. They get resourced, quickly and calmly.)
  10. BONUS: okay if you have some strong emotions like sad or mad or scared etc. that are coming up during the event, DON’T suppress them in service to ‘being a Queen’. Even a Queen has private space to express and feel her emotions, and has an ally she can confide in. DO THAT. No emotions are bad, they are simply information that a NEED has gone unmet (stay tuned for the next blog post going deeper on how to unclog your system from supresssed emotions so you can truly feel FREE)

What are YOUR best practices for taking care of yourself before an important event or photoshoot?

Would love to hear in the comments on the blog, I’m always looking for new tools in my toolbox!

Love,

Paith

Posted on June 1, 2017 and filed under Women Entrepreneurs, Spiritual Tools, photoshoot, videoshoot.

Manifesting Lessons: How Not to Ruin It

Gold Dress Hand on Heart Eyes Closed.jpg

I have been really edgy all week.

It all started right after I found out that my upcoming brand photoshoot and video shoot were going to get moved up to May (I had to do this because the June dates that were available were right during my PMS which is a no-fly zone for me)

During my first conversation with the photographer I was holding my head in between my hands and stressing.

Clearly my body was telling me that something gnarly was afoot in my head.

What is going on???

I absolutely LOVE embodying my brand and taking a stand for all that I want for YOU to have in life by becoming it on camera so you can have a visual activation.

Why was I so miserable as I made plans for this beloved shoot?

In the past, when I would feel miserable feelings of dread around doing something I would immediately pull out of the project.

Now, feelings like this remind me it’s time to do some investigation.

If you’ve ever come up against a big project or decision and then freaked out, even though you really want it to happen, here’s 2 steps of practical advice for you to follow that helped me this week:

I slowed down and tuned into my body. What is she trying to say?

  1. I had to get really quiet to be sure I was listening to the humble voice of my Spirit as she worked through my senses (remember Intuition speaks 1) First 2) Humbly 3) Once. The Ego is loud, fearful and repetitive. Duh.)

From past experience, I knew that I was hitting a part of my fear-self that was freaking out because I was going to do something super feminine and exciting.

Also, with this shoot,  I’m getting very visible as the new Me that has birthed from the ashes of my previous life (pre-motherhood.)

My ego doesn’t like that. And has tried to convince me that this is a really shitty idea, and that I should really just crawl in a hole for the week and stop responding to my team’s questions and inquiries on how I want this shoot to unfold.

Lol. Silly ego.

2. I really had to go into a moving-meditation (my form of prayer) to allow myself to FEEL the WHOLE Divine timing and energy behind this project.

And I had to do it multiple times a day. Until that feeling was more powerful to me than the fear my ego was trying to serve up.

It’s like pouring clean, pure water into a glass that has mud in it. You gotta keep pouring and pouring the clean stuff in until it just moves out the dirty water and all that’s left is the Pure stuff.

I started to be able to access my good feelings about this shoot again.

From that ONE empowered step (broken into two steps as I outlined above) I was able to keep choosing empowered feelings and thoughts and stay in action on getting things organized for the shoot and collaborating with my dream-team.

“One empowered step leads to the next empowered step, like a snowball effect”

I’m deep in preps for this shoot, and have a phenomenal photographer, a Stylist that makes me feel like i’m floating in grace when I talk to her, and a hair stylist/photog assistant who does energy healing and will help keep me in a deeply feminine, resourced and centered place so I can embody all that I’m here to embody in the camera.

WOW.

What a humbling week.

I’m currently PMS’ing, sick with a head cold, but feeling sooooo light, clear and connected to Spirit. And I still have a million things to do to prepare for the big shoot, but because of these 2 steps I outlined above, I’m okay. MORE than okay: peaceful.

And I want that for you too! For whatever your big project, next dream or super exciting idea you want to manifest: I hope for you to get into an empowered place.

I want you to listen to the humble voice of your Soul and commune with the Divine to receive your portion of grace, beauty and love. It will FILL YOU UP and help you trust yourself, stay the course, and create something magical. DRAMA FREE.

I’d love to know, what is something you want to create that scares you a little bit? What empowered choice will you make to make it happen in a state of grace and ease? Share on the blog! I’d love to support you.

All my love,

Paith

Posted on May 11, 2017 and filed under Spiritual Tools, Women Entrepreneurs.

I Want You to Slow Down

What you see when you're on foot in life, aka moving slower...

What you see when you're on foot in life, aka moving slower...

It had been a good day.

I felt productive. I had slept well. I had spent the final hour of my time moving my body and praying and meditating.

I felt centered.

Had communed with Spirit, and let the Light in and observed beauty in my house, in my life and within my Self.

Just before I was to leave to pick up my daughter from preschool I got a call from my dentist (which I had been waiting for because I wanted to pay my balance over the phone and get it out of the way)

So I took the call knowing it might make me a few minutes late. (I’ve been really trying to work on my timeliness)

And sure enough, it did.

But not in the way that I thought.

As I hung up the phone I felt compelled to RUSH, and haphazardly grab my stuff and in a flurry of stress hormones jut out the door and leap into my….

oh wait.

I don’t have my truck keys.

I don’t have ANY keys.

Craaaaaaaaaaaap.

I can’t get in my house and I can’t get in my car. And I’m imminently due to pick up my daughter.

Sooo…I start hoofing it to school.

I’ve never done this before.

It’s been years actually since I was allowed to exercise (think symptomatic with EBV for 3 years, sleep-deprived with a baby that wouldn’t sleep more than 3 hours at a time for 3 years and raisin-sized adrenals) so this is new.

It’s a 3 minute drive, so I figure it’s a 20 minute walk and I just start going.

And, of course, at first i’m irritated and annoyed with myself and the situation.

‘Humbling’, I muttered under my breath. I wasn’t in control. I was going to have to ask for help all the way around.

I would have to call my landlord to bring me a spare (cuz yes my husband had just lost his house key last week!)

And wait for an hour and a half at the preschool for my husband, who was headed to south Denver at the time, to make his way through traffic and back up to us to get us home with a carseat. (you don’t walk with a preschooler in Colorado sun up a hill for 20 minutes, it would be like dragging a cat on a walk…but I digress)

So as I went, something started melting in me.

First, it was my anxiety.

I relented. To the situation, the lack of control I had. The fact that I would not zip anywhere fast, and in fact would have to sloooooowwww way down on my plans for the day. And also wait. Just wait for others to help me.

Next, as I walked, my senses came alive. Suddenly I could smell! Delights came to my nose like spring flowers, and weeds, and lawns being watered, and just, fresh air.

Then, I noticed people started waving at me. People on foot or on bikes who were also not in metal boxes zipping by at a million.

Yup. Life. Connection. Joy. It really set in.

I’m not telling you what to do or exactly how to do it, but I’m suggesting you slow down today somehow.

It was altogether soooo enlightening about how disconnected I had actually been feeling from the collective, from nature and from life itself because I have had myself scheduled very tight and been zipping around in my metal box aka truck to get places, and really NOT enlivening my senses with the space and people around me.

Slowing down allows you to feel, and when you feel, you heal.

Since then, I’ve been more apt to do everything on foot that I can. And its glorious. Just this morning I leapt out of the house with daughter and stroller in hand, excited to re-join life and discover more trails in my neighborhood, meet people, sense wind, and aroma and color and just ahhhhhh. BE. 

Luckily, I live next to some epic open space, and there are trails for days interweaving with apartments and houses and everything.

But really, just a long walk down a busy street to my daughter’s school is what catalyzed it.

I hope you try it too. And perhaps not in a force-your-hand way where you’ve locked yourself out of your car and your house.

But by choice! What can you do to enliven your senses? Awaken your connection to your body and to life itself? How do you want to slow down today? What small change could you experiment with today that will help you feel more connected? More joyful? More peaceful?

If you want accountability to your ideas, share them in the comments below!

Love you.

Paith