Last week I had a HUGE re-branding photoshoot and videoshoot for my biz. And I learned some incredible lessons.
Let me start with a story:
The last time I had a brand photoshoot I:
- Didn't get any sleep
- Got my period and felt like I was going to keel over
- Didn't get any time with my mentor because she was getting her own photos taken during my time slot
- Bought clothes that I honestly wasn't thrilled about wearing
- Was left to my own devices to accessorize the clothes and rush behind the camera in stead of getting support like the other 14 people being photographed that day
- Cried in between shots
Yup. Now you're going to go over to my website and try to see what I'm talking about in the pictures. I only used two of the shots from that shoot (in the sparkly silver dress) because of these problems. Lol go ahead.
I have had a story for 5 years about that shoot. About people letting me down, about bad timing, about EVERYTHING from the victim standpoint.
And while all of it is true, it happened. There was ONE BIG stinking non-Truth in there that went lurking about for years.
Which is: it's ME. Not them. I had some major visibility healing that I needed to do about my own worthiness, my own power, my deservability to be supported, to be in a light and happy place about major upleveling projects like these.
How do I know this? On the eve of my brilliantly self-curated brand photoshoot this week I saw my victimhood issues show up, my visibility fears still latent within my ego, and my final and last-to-go tendencies to hide my power from myself. AGAIN. And I planned everything around my period and hired my own team.
Here's some more story to illustrate:
- I've had poor communication with my Husband about needs and expectations for this event (I basically have been assuming he totally gets every detail of how I want this thing to unfold and it's caused arguments between us based on a lack of communication)
- I've wanted to make up a story as a result that he or someone else is going to ruin it for me
- my adrenals tanked because I've been pushing my energy and not sleeping as much as I need, and I'm now on a recovery protocol, and had to push the shoot back a few days
- I thought about canceling this at least 5 times when various obstacles have come up (like seriously easy obstacles and the little girl in me is like: should we just cancel? Lol. No sweetie)
Now, I'm not a freshman when it comes to working through my stories, my B.S. and my fears, so here's what I did to find my way, and what you can do too before any important event, and especially a photoshoot or videoshoot.
The B.S. Buster List: (for any important project)
- Realize that YOU and you alone create your reality. It's not them, it's YOU. Everything around you is just gonna mirror back to you the areas inside your being you get to work on right now. For example: Not feeling supported in your project? Make a list of everything you need support with, who you want to ask, and then GO and get that support. Don't just sit there and let yourself feel like a victim.
- Get real: EVERYONE has fears when it comes to a major upleveling project like a photoshoot or any opportunity to show up as your NEXT LEVEL SELF. Make a list of what you're afraid of, how you've behaved in the past when you've done something similar, and what you'd like to do differently this time.
- When you feel scared, like collapsing and canceling, like EVERYONE else is letting you down, STOP. Realize that this is an ego trick and it's designed to give you a sense of contrast so you can SEE EXACTLY what you have to work on within YOURSELF. Yay!
- You think you're just having a photoshoot/special event? HA! Your having an opportunity to work on your deepest, darkest sh%*. GO GET IT LIKE A QUEEN WOULD. Face it head on, squarely, bravely, and with a mighty sword of TRUTH.
- DON'T buy into your own b.s.
Oh and if you really have a photoshoot, videoshoot or event coming up, here's 9 seriously practical and awesome get-ready-steps after you've dealt with the above to get you into your feminine and in your power:
9 Get-Ready Steps for Any Photoshoot, Videoshoot or Live-Event:
- Hire a team you love (you should feel thrilled to be in their energy-space, otherwise, it’s not a match)
- Don't settle with your clothes or jewelry, go to your edge and let yourself wear the best stuff (I suggest a Brand Stylist like Sybil Henry of www.thestyleconcierge.com my Fairy God-sister of brand strategy and style)
- Connect to your mission emotionally right before stepping in front of the camera. Close your eyes, breathe and move your body, and let your mission reach every cell in your body before opening your eyes and taking your first pictures. Rinse and repeat all day.
- Tell everyone EXACTLY how to support you (s-p-e-l-l it OUT) We aren’t mind-readers!
- Get glorious sleep (lose the illusion that getting more done at night is going to help you. It’ll just backfire)
- Exfoliate (Luminescence!)
- Get a mani/pedi (ahhhhhhh)
- Get a massage (I suggest the day before the event)
- Be a Queen (means NO victim stories, ask for what you want, don’t make demands. Queens know they are in charge of their reality, and don’t have to beg and plead and yell. They get resourced, quickly and calmly.)
- BONUS: okay if you have some strong emotions like sad or mad or scared etc. that are coming up during the event, DON’T suppress them in service to ‘being a Queen’. Even a Queen has private space to express and feel her emotions, and has an ally she can confide in. DO THAT. No emotions are bad, they are simply information that a NEED has gone unmet (stay tuned for the next blog post going deeper on how to unclog your system from supresssed emotions so you can truly feel FREE)
What are YOUR best practices for taking care of yourself before an important event or photoshoot?
Would love to hear in the comments on the blog, I’m always looking for new tools in my toolbox!