I Want You to Slow Down

What you see when you're on foot in life, aka moving slower...

What you see when you're on foot in life, aka moving slower...

It had been a good day.

I felt productive. I had slept well. I had spent the final hour of my time moving my body and praying and meditating.

I felt centered.

Had communed with Spirit, and let the Light in and observed beauty in my house, in my life and within my Self.

Just before I was to leave to pick up my daughter from preschool I got a call from my dentist (which I had been waiting for because I wanted to pay my balance over the phone and get it out of the way)

So I took the call knowing it might make me a few minutes late. (I’ve been really trying to work on my timeliness)

And sure enough, it did.

But not in the way that I thought.

As I hung up the phone I felt compelled to RUSH, and haphazardly grab my stuff and in a flurry of stress hormones jut out the door and leap into my….

oh wait.

I don’t have my truck keys.

I don’t have ANY keys.

Craaaaaaaaaaaap.

I can’t get in my house and I can’t get in my car. And I’m imminently due to pick up my daughter.

Sooo…I start hoofing it to school.

I’ve never done this before.

It’s been years actually since I was allowed to exercise (think symptomatic with EBV for 3 years, sleep-deprived with a baby that wouldn’t sleep more than 3 hours at a time for 3 years and raisin-sized adrenals) so this is new.

It’s a 3 minute drive, so I figure it’s a 20 minute walk and I just start going.

And, of course, at first i’m irritated and annoyed with myself and the situation.

‘Humbling’, I muttered under my breath. I wasn’t in control. I was going to have to ask for help all the way around.

I would have to call my landlord to bring me a spare (cuz yes my husband had just lost his house key last week!)

And wait for an hour and a half at the preschool for my husband, who was headed to south Denver at the time, to make his way through traffic and back up to us to get us home with a carseat. (you don’t walk with a preschooler in Colorado sun up a hill for 20 minutes, it would be like dragging a cat on a walk…but I digress)

So as I went, something started melting in me.

First, it was my anxiety.

I relented. To the situation, the lack of control I had. The fact that I would not zip anywhere fast, and in fact would have to sloooooowwww way down on my plans for the day. And also wait. Just wait for others to help me.

Next, as I walked, my senses came alive. Suddenly I could smell! Delights came to my nose like spring flowers, and weeds, and lawns being watered, and just, fresh air.

Then, I noticed people started waving at me. People on foot or on bikes who were also not in metal boxes zipping by at a million.

Yup. Life. Connection. Joy. It really set in.

I’m not telling you what to do or exactly how to do it, but I’m suggesting you slow down today somehow.

It was altogether soooo enlightening about how disconnected I had actually been feeling from the collective, from nature and from life itself because I have had myself scheduled very tight and been zipping around in my metal box aka truck to get places, and really NOT enlivening my senses with the space and people around me.

Slowing down allows you to feel, and when you feel, you heal.

Since then, I’ve been more apt to do everything on foot that I can. And its glorious. Just this morning I leapt out of the house with daughter and stroller in hand, excited to re-join life and discover more trails in my neighborhood, meet people, sense wind, and aroma and color and just ahhhhhh. BE. 

Luckily, I live next to some epic open space, and there are trails for days interweaving with apartments and houses and everything.

But really, just a long walk down a busy street to my daughter’s school is what catalyzed it.

I hope you try it too. And perhaps not in a force-your-hand way where you’ve locked yourself out of your car and your house.

But by choice! What can you do to enliven your senses? Awaken your connection to your body and to life itself? How do you want to slow down today? What small change could you experiment with today that will help you feel more connected? More joyful? More peaceful?

If you want accountability to your ideas, share them in the comments below!

Love you.

Paith

5 Simple Steps to Move Gracefully Through Any Change (+ How CHANGE is like death and why that scares us into stuckness)

 

Just recently, my Husband flew back to MI to help my father-in-law transition to the next world.

He had gotten sick last week, kidneys failed, and as a few days progressed, it became clear that this was going to be his graduation.

I felt all kinds of emotions.

Joy, relief, and grief.

I miss him. He was an awesome father-in-law. He ALWAYS sent cards on time, to the day, he didn’t miss a communication moment for an anniversary or anything. He accepted me completely as I am, and never tried to change me. He thanked me for making his granddaughter, from the bottom of his heart. He ALWAYS had his kids on his mind, and wanted the best for us.

Letting go of him this week, in his physical form, was and is hard. Truly, I will miss him.

Also, at the same time I want for him what I want for anybody: true freedom.

And death is the greatest journey of freedom that we can look forward to. I wanted him to have a simple, gentle and powerful transition to the next world. To feel free to let go of this life, and trust that we are all taken care of, and go on to his next steps.

The way I view it, death is a birth. My daughter was born into the most atmospheric, graceful, peaceful and loving environment I could imagine. My husband helped me create that. I look back on it with such fondness and joy.

And my father-in-law passed into the next world and was birthed into his next life whilst being held by his children who were singing prayers for the ascent of his soul. It was magical. It was holy. And when the story of his passing was shared with me by my husband, it reminded me of my daughter’s birth. So holy. So calm.

My message to you is that the end is the beginning. There is no end, really.

If you want something to change in your life but you're getting stuck in the transition, you might want to address your view on death. {TWEET IT}

Every completion or ending is like a death. And every death is a birth. The door to both is the same door.

While you’re here in this reality, with this beautiful vehicle called your human body, what will you do with your time?

How can you look forward to the end of things, and allow yourself to transition effortlessly through your changes, so that you can experience the miracle of rebirth each day of your life?

How can the lesson of life + death help you in your own life today?

Here’s an exercise to do to pluck the fruit of life for yourself and really get your whole mission by not staying stuck in fear of what’s coming next:

(again, this blog isn’t about physical death, it’s about CHANGE, which the ego often interprets as a death, and does everything it can to keep us stuck so it doesn’t have to face that perceived threat)

  1. What changes are you resisting?
  2. Why? What are you afraid of?
  3. If you could magically let go of that fear, what benefits would you get from moving gracefully through the change?
  4. What choices would you make from this empowered place (if you simply had no fear)?
  5. Make a commitment to yourself now to take action on the choices written in Step 4 (write them down on your calendar on a specific date, and even write down the specific location from which you take each action)
  6. Do it anyway. Just do it.
  7. Still stuck? Maybe it’s time you applied for a Complimentary Consult with me. I’m a master at helping you get unstuck from fears, and clear on how to turn your long-term dreams into short-term reality —> Apply here.

In the comments below tell me one action you’re going to take from above! Sharing it out in the open is one of the best forms of accountability! Let us hold your vision with you!

Utmost love,

Paith

When you're about to give up on yourself

A personal story from me to help you stay firmly on your path

 

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Do not waver dear one.

You are meant to BE great.

You were designed by the Creator for great things, be they small acts, or huge changes you effect

Your life-force is vital to the planet

To the collective

and when your heart is service-based, and your intentions spiritually-centered

You will be a catalyst for grass-roots change

Even by your presence

If you simply remember your True Self

and EMBODY that everywhere you go

Your very presence will transform the people around you

Here's a video message of hope

 

if you've ever considered, or are currently considering, giving up on yourself in some way

Be a strong ship

and stay on course

All my love,

Paith