The Difference Between Good Fear and Bad Fear (and where I've been lately!)

Feel the fear and keep moving through it with breath...

Feel the fear and keep moving through it with breath...

Just a few months ago I got the download that something was really awry with my family's health. As the woman, I am the keeper of the family's health in terms of spiritual responsibility. That's how I see it, especially because I'm deeply in tune with my inner oracle, resource powerful herbs and plant-based nutrition and involve body-centered therapies that I can do, my Husband can do, or we hire out for.

But recently, I noticed my Husband's health deteriorating...and it gave me pause. Because he's a powerful healer and yet still he couldn't arrest these strange symptoms he was having. Combine that with my super extended post-partum leave after having my baby trying to heal my Thyroid and all the symptoms that attended that...and most recently I got a full-body rash...something. Is. UP.

We are not like this. We are healers. We are powerful. We heal ourselves and others. Wth is going on? I kept thinking. I believe everyone needs an outside eye for their own process, and I involved the guidance of a skilled Osteopath MD, and it turns out ALL our symptoms point to chemical toxicity.

What?? Us, who don't eat pesticides? Us, who don't use ANY chemical cleaners? She pointed it to an environmental toxin and after some research we found that the golf course behind our home has been exposing us to chemical run-off for two years straight.

You can imagine the fear that flooded my body.

I brought my 8-month old, my Husband and I to this place in total trust. Raised my baby here. Wondered why my exhaustion was not yielding to strength and energy. Wondered why my mental fog was so thick even when my baby started sleeping through the night. Wondered why my Husband kept on looking less and less like himself and more and more like a sick person does. And what might be going on inside of my baby that I don't know about??

I had to take a MAJOR extended break from work and serving clients in my purpose for these maddening symptoms, and all the while I thought it was ME. Some part of me that wasn't willing to be healed. Or whatever. I kept blaming myself all this time.

Turns out, we were being poisoned by irresponsible people.

Now I want to mention that we are on a powerful chemical detox that's made entirely from citrus pectin and algae and some other good stuff and we are doing great, feeling better each day, and getting ready to move house, so don't worry.

But really, I wanted to share this story because even though we have the solution, we are taking consistent, conscious, expedient and powerful steps, I'm still really afraid. My mind wants to wander, wants to fear the unknown. I switch from feeling totally held by the Creator (when I'm in my body and really breathing and moving with the fears) to feeling afraid (when I'm stuck in my head) that we won't find our next home soon enough, that my daughter will have some type of long-term side-effect we don't know about yet, that we won't be provided for in our next steps.

Every time I have these negative thoughts I know I am in my head. My whole body tenses up, the space between my eyes gets heavy, and my tummy contracts. That's fear based on believing untrue thoughts, the body is brilliant at giving accurate feedback, and this is how it does it.

When I'm believing the thoughts that I am provided for, guided, supported by an all-loving Creator, my whole body relaxes, my vision gets sharper, and I breathe deeper. When I feel the opposite, I simply have to move my body, even a little bit, and keep moving and deepening my breath and connecting with God as I move and pray. It all feels so right there. Right here in my body everything feels okay, MORE than okay. There is a divine Hand in all of this. Each time I step into this space, some new dimension of support reaches us; we get a phone call, an email or some other piece of good news or form of support to help us get into safety and into our next steps.

I've noticed that I am in fear of one thing that I think IS really healthy. I'm in fear of stepping out of alignment from my Creator, and what that Creator wants for me. The Creator in my understanding is a better Friend to me than I am to myself. And when I feel this healthy sense of fear of stepping out of alignment from what the Essence wants for me, it feels like a child who wants to be guided by her parent, it feels like awe and respect in my body, it feels like healthy submission to One who wants better for me, Who knows me, and Who created me and Who loves me unconditionally. I wouldn't want to disappoint Someone like that.

I'm so awed by this process, and really thankful I get to work on my deepest triggers of all time in this process of staying active toward getting us where we need to be, and allowing God to work divine magic in the situation. Because these are some of the deepest triggers I know; something challenging our health and safety and stability.

Meanwhile, I continue to serve my clients in-person and via Skype to assist them to prosper in their callings. And that work brings me so much energy and joy. Watching others soar reminds me of my true nature and give me tremendous energy. Serving others is true upliftment and brightens my path and illuminates my own choices.

If you'd like to learn about your body, your purpose and how it all ties into your prosperity, please contact me for a complimentary 15-minute consultation to discuss working together in one of these ways, dedicated and tailored to the one and only YOU:

The 2-Hour Miracle Session: this is a short and easy way to be introduced to my method and to get fast results on 1 core theme you'd like to shift in your life powerfully. It's been referred to by my clients as a miracle, pure magic for their lives.

Full Day Unlock Your Core Genius VIP Intensive: we spend a whole day together on your purpose, your gifts and your way of serving in the world that will bring you prosperity. You come away with a 30-day action plan and this program includes email Q&A, texting to my private number, as well as a 45-minute follow-up session to accompany you through your 30-day process of creating and manifesting. Lots of nurturing, goodies and surprises come your way.

3-month Launch Your Next Level Programthis program includes the Unlock Your Core Genius VIP Day Intensive to get you prospering in your purpose plus 3 full months of coaching together with me. Together we'll identify a 90-day plan for you, you get 5 x 45min phone coaching sessions, email Q&A, texting to my private number and lots of nurturing, goodies and surprises. Your life will completely transform, and new, empowering habits will be deeply held at this level of support.

To ask for a complimentary consultation, just email me at paith@paithmacqueen.com and we'll get it set up.

Please note all programs are available via Skype and the work is just as powerful. You may also travel in town to work with me.

The investment for each program is shared during our consultation, and having a consultation is not an obligation to invest. If we both feel we are a match to work together, then I will share more about these programs and the investment at that time.

Also, I'd love to hear how you tell the difference between good fear and bad fear in your life? What does good fear mean to you? Please share in the comments below!

With all love,

Paith

Posted on July 12, 2016 .

3 Keys to Stay in Your Feminine and Stay in Action So You Can Prosper as a Woman Entrepreneur


It's not easy being driven

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Some of us are so unlucky that we have this nagging drive to change the world with our gifts. It nags us when we should be sleeping. It nags us when we should be sitting down to eat instead of pacing with a bowl and spoon in hand. It nags us when we should be present to the person in front of us instead of 'getting a download' for the next way we can serve others.

Oh haha! Let's face it, that's a fabulous problem to have. But when a woman is that driven by her purpose and mission, it can create some difficult results everywhere else in her life. You might get stuck in your masculine a lot, you might push yourself past the point of tiredness a lot in your work day, or you might make decisions from a place of fear rather than a place of love.

And of course, everyone does this stuff, all the way up to the top earners and leaders in any market. But what separates those who stay inspired, grateful, full of energy and on course and those that get depleted, burnt out, resentful, and want to burn down their business (or do that unwittingly through sabotage) are a few simple tools that I'd like to pass on to you today.

I built my first business on a combination of inspiration and fear. I made a lot of money in my first few launches, but I also had a huge fear of  not being able to pay bills if I didn't take massive action. It was a good learning experience, and I'm back from it to tell you how to stay in your feminine AND stay in conscious action so you can truly prosper.

To prosper isn't only about money-making, it is about being truly happy and spiritually-enriched and knowing who you really are so that you can contribute your authentic self in all that you do; to prosper is, in essence, to be free.

Here are the 3 Keys to Staying in your Feminine and in Action at the same time:

  1. Get Embodied - no matter who you are, because you have a body (your vehicle for your destiny in life) you MUST move it in a loving, conscious manner in order to stay in your feminine. Preferably find a spiritual practice that includes the body like yoga, qi gong, meditation, etc. and cultivate that. Some practices like Nia and Ecstatic Dance feel very spiritual to me because I use that time to deepen my connection with the Creator. Almost anything anywhere can support your spiritual cultivation in your body if you have an intention for that to happen. Some of my favorite ways to get embodied with the support of others are: massage, float tanks, sound baths, devotional concerts, chanting, and singing. On my own I like to: swim in the ocean no matter what temperature it is, do a moving meditation, paint & draw (yes these have the same affect on the brain and body as meditation and are very embodying) 
  2. Get into Your Beauty - your Beauty is a spiritual power and quality, NOT skin deep. First and foremost connect with your inner radiance (this is where step 1 is of utmost importance) so that you KNOW who you are as a Soul, and feel the deep beauty of your reality. Then it's time to cultivate and enjoy outer beauty rituals which really anchor the feminine into the body in a solid way. Learn the Sacred Art of Makeup and sit down to do your makeup in the morning (preferable after you've moved your body); light candles just for your own enjoyment; buy flowers once a week for the house; play music that inspires you to move your body throughout the day; learn about your body's shape and style essence, go on a diet from negative self-talk; be compassionate with yourself; and, perhaps most importantly, learn what loving yourself really means (see yourself a Spiritual Being, whose purpose is to know and love her Creatoror whatever you want to call it, The Universe, Divine Essence etc.rather than a body whose purpose is to be perfect.)
  3. Get into Your Purpose - Find out what your deeper purpose is behind what you ‘do’ or ‘sell’. Connect with that deeper purpose in some ritual every morning and every evening, meditate with it in mind, say prayers, ask for guidance, then be still and let the wisdom come. The next day (or in the moment), act on any actions steps that came to you in your meditation. Find ways to serve others more fully with your gifts, whether it is how you infuse love into the meals you make for your family, or the energy of the words you say, or the thoughts you think as you interact with someone whom you want to feel ‘enough’ and ‘whole’.  Infuse this service-oriented mindset into your work/offerings.

Remember:

Beauty is a spiritual quality and it is accentuated by purpose, a woman in her purpose and in her feminine pleasure is unstoppable, this is the key to her prosperity {Tweet that!}

Now it's time for me to hear from you, how do YOU stay in your feminine and in action, or what is one change you are going to make from the suggestions above? Share in the comments below.