Manifesting Lessons: How Not to Ruin It

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I have been really edgy all week.

It all started right after I found out that my upcoming brand photoshoot and video shoot were going to get moved up to May (I had to do this because the June dates that were available were right during my PMS which is a no-fly zone for me)

During my first conversation with the photographer I was holding my head in between my hands and stressing.

Clearly my body was telling me that something gnarly was afoot in my head.

What is going on???

I absolutely LOVE embodying my brand and taking a stand for all that I want for YOU to have in life by becoming it on camera so you can have a visual activation.

Why was I so miserable as I made plans for this beloved shoot?

In the past, when I would feel miserable feelings of dread around doing something I would immediately pull out of the project.

Now, feelings like this remind me it’s time to do some investigation.

If you’ve ever come up against a big project or decision and then freaked out, even though you really want it to happen, here’s 2 steps of practical advice for you to follow that helped me this week:

I slowed down and tuned into my body. What is she trying to say?

  1. I had to get really quiet to be sure I was listening to the humble voice of my Spirit as she worked through my senses (remember Intuition speaks 1) First 2) Humbly 3) Once. The Ego is loud, fearful and repetitive. Duh.)

From past experience, I knew that I was hitting a part of my fear-self that was freaking out because I was going to do something super feminine and exciting.

Also, with this shoot,  I’m getting very visible as the new Me that has birthed from the ashes of my previous life (pre-motherhood.)

My ego doesn’t like that. And has tried to convince me that this is a really shitty idea, and that I should really just crawl in a hole for the week and stop responding to my team’s questions and inquiries on how I want this shoot to unfold.

Lol. Silly ego.

2. I really had to go into a moving-meditation (my form of prayer) to allow myself to FEEL the WHOLE Divine timing and energy behind this project.

And I had to do it multiple times a day. Until that feeling was more powerful to me than the fear my ego was trying to serve up.

It’s like pouring clean, pure water into a glass that has mud in it. You gotta keep pouring and pouring the clean stuff in until it just moves out the dirty water and all that’s left is the Pure stuff.

I started to be able to access my good feelings about this shoot again.

From that ONE empowered step (broken into two steps as I outlined above) I was able to keep choosing empowered feelings and thoughts and stay in action on getting things organized for the shoot and collaborating with my dream-team.

“One empowered step leads to the next empowered step, like a snowball effect”

I’m deep in preps for this shoot, and have a phenomenal photographer, a Stylist that makes me feel like i’m floating in grace when I talk to her, and a hair stylist/photog assistant who does energy healing and will help keep me in a deeply feminine, resourced and centered place so I can embody all that I’m here to embody in the camera.

WOW.

What a humbling week.

I’m currently PMS’ing, sick with a head cold, but feeling sooooo light, clear and connected to Spirit. And I still have a million things to do to prepare for the big shoot, but because of these 2 steps I outlined above, I’m okay. MORE than okay: peaceful.

And I want that for you too! For whatever your big project, next dream or super exciting idea you want to manifest: I hope for you to get into an empowered place.

I want you to listen to the humble voice of your Soul and commune with the Divine to receive your portion of grace, beauty and love. It will FILL YOU UP and help you trust yourself, stay the course, and create something magical. DRAMA FREE.

I’d love to know, what is something you want to create that scares you a little bit? What empowered choice will you make to make it happen in a state of grace and ease? Share on the blog! I’d love to support you.

All my love,

Paith

Posted on May 11, 2017 and filed under Spiritual Tools, Women Entrepreneurs.

I Want You to Slow Down

What you see when you're on foot in life, aka moving slower...

What you see when you're on foot in life, aka moving slower...

It had been a good day.

I felt productive. I had slept well. I had spent the final hour of my time moving my body and praying and meditating.

I felt centered.

Had communed with Spirit, and let the Light in and observed beauty in my house, in my life and within my Self.

Just before I was to leave to pick up my daughter from preschool I got a call from my dentist (which I had been waiting for because I wanted to pay my balance over the phone and get it out of the way)

So I took the call knowing it might make me a few minutes late. (I’ve been really trying to work on my timeliness)

And sure enough, it did.

But not in the way that I thought.

As I hung up the phone I felt compelled to RUSH, and haphazardly grab my stuff and in a flurry of stress hormones jut out the door and leap into my….

oh wait.

I don’t have my truck keys.

I don’t have ANY keys.

Craaaaaaaaaaaap.

I can’t get in my house and I can’t get in my car. And I’m imminently due to pick up my daughter.

Sooo…I start hoofing it to school.

I’ve never done this before.

It’s been years actually since I was allowed to exercise (think symptomatic with EBV for 3 years, sleep-deprived with a baby that wouldn’t sleep more than 3 hours at a time for 3 years and raisin-sized adrenals) so this is new.

It’s a 3 minute drive, so I figure it’s a 20 minute walk and I just start going.

And, of course, at first i’m irritated and annoyed with myself and the situation.

‘Humbling’, I muttered under my breath. I wasn’t in control. I was going to have to ask for help all the way around.

I would have to call my landlord to bring me a spare (cuz yes my husband had just lost his house key last week!)

And wait for an hour and a half at the preschool for my husband, who was headed to south Denver at the time, to make his way through traffic and back up to us to get us home with a carseat. (you don’t walk with a preschooler in Colorado sun up a hill for 20 minutes, it would be like dragging a cat on a walk…but I digress)

So as I went, something started melting in me.

First, it was my anxiety.

I relented. To the situation, the lack of control I had. The fact that I would not zip anywhere fast, and in fact would have to sloooooowwww way down on my plans for the day. And also wait. Just wait for others to help me.

Next, as I walked, my senses came alive. Suddenly I could smell! Delights came to my nose like spring flowers, and weeds, and lawns being watered, and just, fresh air.

Then, I noticed people started waving at me. People on foot or on bikes who were also not in metal boxes zipping by at a million.

Yup. Life. Connection. Joy. It really set in.

I’m not telling you what to do or exactly how to do it, but I’m suggesting you slow down today somehow.

It was altogether soooo enlightening about how disconnected I had actually been feeling from the collective, from nature and from life itself because I have had myself scheduled very tight and been zipping around in my metal box aka truck to get places, and really NOT enlivening my senses with the space and people around me.

Slowing down allows you to feel, and when you feel, you heal.

Since then, I’ve been more apt to do everything on foot that I can. And its glorious. Just this morning I leapt out of the house with daughter and stroller in hand, excited to re-join life and discover more trails in my neighborhood, meet people, sense wind, and aroma and color and just ahhhhhh. BE. 

Luckily, I live next to some epic open space, and there are trails for days interweaving with apartments and houses and everything.

But really, just a long walk down a busy street to my daughter’s school is what catalyzed it.

I hope you try it too. And perhaps not in a force-your-hand way where you’ve locked yourself out of your car and your house.

But by choice! What can you do to enliven your senses? Awaken your connection to your body and to life itself? How do you want to slow down today? What small change could you experiment with today that will help you feel more connected? More joyful? More peaceful?

If you want accountability to your ideas, share them in the comments below!

Love you.

Paith

5 Simple Steps to Move Gracefully Through Any Change (+ How CHANGE is like death and why that scares us into stuckness)

 

Just recently, my Husband flew back to MI to help my father-in-law transition to the next world.

He had gotten sick last week, kidneys failed, and as a few days progressed, it became clear that this was going to be his graduation.

I felt all kinds of emotions.

Joy, relief, and grief.

I miss him. He was an awesome father-in-law. He ALWAYS sent cards on time, to the day, he didn’t miss a communication moment for an anniversary or anything. He accepted me completely as I am, and never tried to change me. He thanked me for making his granddaughter, from the bottom of his heart. He ALWAYS had his kids on his mind, and wanted the best for us.

Letting go of him this week, in his physical form, was and is hard. Truly, I will miss him.

Also, at the same time I want for him what I want for anybody: true freedom.

And death is the greatest journey of freedom that we can look forward to. I wanted him to have a simple, gentle and powerful transition to the next world. To feel free to let go of this life, and trust that we are all taken care of, and go on to his next steps.

The way I view it, death is a birth. My daughter was born into the most atmospheric, graceful, peaceful and loving environment I could imagine. My husband helped me create that. I look back on it with such fondness and joy.

And my father-in-law passed into the next world and was birthed into his next life whilst being held by his children who were singing prayers for the ascent of his soul. It was magical. It was holy. And when the story of his passing was shared with me by my husband, it reminded me of my daughter’s birth. So holy. So calm.

My message to you is that the end is the beginning. There is no end, really.

If you want something to change in your life but you're getting stuck in the transition, you might want to address your view on death. {TWEET IT}

Every completion or ending is like a death. And every death is a birth. The door to both is the same door.

While you’re here in this reality, with this beautiful vehicle called your human body, what will you do with your time?

How can you look forward to the end of things, and allow yourself to transition effortlessly through your changes, so that you can experience the miracle of rebirth each day of your life?

How can the lesson of life + death help you in your own life today?

Here’s an exercise to do to pluck the fruit of life for yourself and really get your whole mission by not staying stuck in fear of what’s coming next:

(again, this blog isn’t about physical death, it’s about CHANGE, which the ego often interprets as a death, and does everything it can to keep us stuck so it doesn’t have to face that perceived threat)

  1. What changes are you resisting?
  2. Why? What are you afraid of?
  3. If you could magically let go of that fear, what benefits would you get from moving gracefully through the change?
  4. What choices would you make from this empowered place (if you simply had no fear)?
  5. Make a commitment to yourself now to take action on the choices written in Step 4 (write them down on your calendar on a specific date, and even write down the specific location from which you take each action)
  6. Do it anyway. Just do it.
  7. Still stuck? Maybe it’s time you applied for a Complimentary Consult with me. I’m a master at helping you get unstuck from fears, and clear on how to turn your long-term dreams into short-term reality —> Apply here.

In the comments below tell me one action you’re going to take from above! Sharing it out in the open is one of the best forms of accountability! Let us hold your vision with you!

Utmost love,

Paith